When I look at you I don’t just see you as my dear loving husband but the amazing Father of our two beautiful girls. Chloe Beatrice Emiola and Grace Suzanne Olufemi are your babies and you will always be their Daddy. They may not be here for you to hold but they are still very much at the centre of our lives, our thoughts, our memories, our conversations each day. You loved them from the moment I shouted down the stairs last May those words ‘I’m pregnant’ and I know you will love them every day of your life. They are each a little bit of you and me, made from the love we share and I often find myself thinking about them when I look at the cute shape of your nose which they inherited from you. 

You fathered and still father them in so many ways. Here are just a few to mention.  

You spoke to them and prayed over them each day throughout my pregnancy,  with excitement you gazed upon them and listened to their heart beats every two weeks at the scans. You took photos of my growing bump with amazement, you told me your hopes and dreams for them and our future years together as a family. 

The day our babies hearts stopped beating your heart broke too and you wept over them with devastation. Yet you remained as a rock to me their mother. 

I will never forget the look on your face when you first saw Chloe on 27th September, your firstborn and then Grace over an hour later. Amidst your grief was a look of pure love as you gazed upon your daughters as any proud dad would upon their birth. You carefully cut their cords and then held them close and couldn’t stop marvelling at how wonderful they were.  

You had to say goodbye to our girls and the life that was meant to be with them and no father should ever have to carry the coffin of their daughters yet you did with such braveness to honour them. 

You are their father in the way you talk about them to others and keep their memory alive. Your love for them overflows in the things you do and say. You encourage us all with your faith and strength. Your girls will always be in your heart my lovely husband. Thank you for being their father and for always being you! I love you!